Monday, 17 August 2009
Reflection on sex
Sex is treated in two very different ways by society. On one hand, it is trivialized and talked about too freely. On the other society sees sexuality of ultimate and absolute importance. Those who are not sexually fulfilled are thought to be very poor indeed. Sex touches the human being very deeply. It is intimate but not the deepest part of man.
There are two separate approaches towards building a foundation for sexual ethics. Some say that rules provide the basis. The sacrifice of your own immediate gratification for discipline and purity helps us to follow Christ and grow in discipleship. Other people say that love is the starting point. The concern for honesty, care and responsibility should take priority.
Paul reflects on the meaning of the body. He reminds us that we are not our own and that our body is a temple of the Holy Spirit. (1 Corinthian 6:19). We are not to reserve any part of our life as we do not belong to ourselves. The whole of our life is caught up in God’s working and God’s life. Human being are a unity in duality: spirit and matter, inextricably interlocked and interlinked. A husband should give wife conjugal rights and the husband does not have authority over his body as his wife also has rights over his body (1 Cor 7:3-4). At the time, this was revolutionary teaching. In this same logic we do not belong to ourselves but were bought with a price.